MUST READ ARTICLE, IF THIS 8 THINGS IS HAPPENING IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP,BE CAREFUL YOU WILL END UP GETTING MARRIED TO WRONG PERSON

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WHY PEOPLE MARRY THE WRONG PERSON : ALL UNMARRIED MUST READ THIS BEFORE MARRIAGE. Many married people are daily regretting and cursing their marriages. If you are single, know the reasons why people marry wrong persons and end their marriages in bitter separations or live to endure it. 


1. YOU FOCUS MORE ON CHEMISTRY THAN ON CHARACTER Principle: Never marry someone because you’re in love. Falling in love is a state of temporary psychosis. It is the “delusion of fusion.” Identify the specific character traits you must have in your spouse and know clearly how to asses for each one. Background checks are essential, Be especially careful to check out the family. People from warm & loving homes will most likely be emotionally healthy people. Chemistry means there is physical and sexual attraction. Compatibility: Looking for sameness: same backgrounds, culture, language, interests,politics etc. Temperament types are important to know.
2. YOU EXPECT HIM OR HER TO CHANGE AFTER YOU'RE MARRIED The question you must ask is, “Can I live with this person the way he is now and be happy with him?” Principle: Never marry potential. This implies bad potential. He’s a chronic smoker and drunkard & says he’ll change for you. This is bad potential. If he doesn't change you’ll resent him.

3. YOU DON'T UNDERSTAND THE FUNDAMENTAL NEEDS OF MEN AND WOMEN This is all about making sure the male-female energies are in sync. Men and women each have one core emotional need. Men want to be respected. Women want to be cherished, which means they want to be protected, provided for, and guided. The ultimate prerequisite for a man to get married is that he is ready to take responsibility.He has to be ready to be a “man.”

4. YOU DON'T KNOW WHAT YOU WANT AND WHERE YOU'RE GOING This means knowing what you stand for in life: Your values, priorities, and goals. Ideally you should not be considering marriage until you've answered life’s most important question: What am I living for? Two people who have the same life goal have a much greater chance of growing together and staying together in a deeply bonded way. A soul mate is a goal mate. Principle: The more clearly and narrowly we define ourselves, the better our chance of finding the right person. Tools: What are we going to build together? What are this person’s life commitments? What does this person stand for? What is he passionate about? 



5. YOU GET INVOLVED S*XUALLY TOO QUICKLY Becoming intimate too soon can be self-defeating because it creates confusion. • It may create a false sense of commitment and depth. • It may block you from processing your feelings which is soul-tie • It may lead to overlooking problems that should not be overlooked.

6. YOU CHOOSE SOMEONE WHO IS ABUSIVE The definition of an abusive relationship is one in which you are afraid to express your feelings and opinions. Other indicators: • You don’t feel emotionally safe. • You have to monitor what you say. • You walk on egg shells around this person. • You don’t feel relaxed and don’t feel you can be yourself. • The person is demanding, controlling, or communicates with anger and criticism.

7. YOU DO NOT HAVE A CONSISTENTLY POSITIVE EMOTIONAL CONNECTION WITH EACH OTHER A positive emotional connection does not mean you are in love. Five questions to evaluate if you have a positive emotional connection: → Do I respect and admire this person? → Do I trust this person in every way and feel I can rely on his or her judgment? → Do I feel totally safe with this person (like I feel with my best friend)? → Do I truly care about this person and have a desire to give to him or her? → Are we open and honest with each other about our feelings and opinions? Your greatest tool for measuring the quality of the relationship is your feelings. Principle: Never dismiss anything that bothers you! Process everything that bothers you.




8. YOU DON'T COMMUNICATE WELL: This is very important: You must be sure before you get married that the two of you communicate well. Good communication means: √ We can talk openly and honestly about our feelings √ We listen to each other and make it safe for each other to express ourselves. √ There is no defensiveness √ We trust that together we can resolve problems √ We have confidence in ourselves that we can repair our breakdowns √ We work well together; we’re a good team PRINCIPLE: U must be able to repair breakdowns 100%, which means there is no resentment or bad feelings left over. One of the biggest mistakes people make is to believe that marriage will heal or fix their deep inner pain. In many cases, marriage will only make the pain greater; more unbearable!
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