I’m not sure what’s going on in my marriage anymore. Sometimes, I think I’m losing my mind for no reason. Then again, I feel something really wrong is going on.
Let me give a bit of background. I’m in my early 30s and I’ve been married for about three years without kids. My best friend and I have been close since secondary school days and always do things in common. It became even a closer relationship when I married from her tribe, Yoruba and I’m from Igbo tribe.
However, my problem is with her closeness with my husband. Sometimes, the way they gist in their local dialect makes me uncomfortable, always laughing crazily like teenagers. In all my years of marriage, I haven’t enjoyed that banter the way they do. I feel like the third wheel. Sometimes, my gut tells me she is flirting with him with her general body language and the way she makes faces at him.
he hasn’t done anything overt. It is the nudging him in the ribs, the rubbing of his head or even gentle tugging of his beard that is making me go crazy. The way she laughs at his jokes; jokes that are not even funny.
She is too damn relaxed in his presence. She even has this nickname for him in their dialect! I know she is not seeing anyone, she would tell me if so. What can I do? I can’t just cut her off abruptly or ban her from my house. It would be odd and besides, we have a lot of mutual friends. To be fair to my husband, he hasn’t given me any tangible reason to be suspicious but you know what they say about Naija men. Please what should I do?
Nneka Writes From Ikoyi Lagos